Love is overrated!
Among all those silly things is a person caught in that brooding emotion called Love. An emotion, which results into couples to cling & fling. The emotion which, in the times of so much to catch and throw and juggle, seems so very overrated! In these times where it is so tough to find time for the self, it is amazing how blown out of proportion is this love phenomenon. What is called love is, for many, nothing more than just a dependency. Love used to be; today it has been widely misused to cover up for obsession and compulsion. Some of you might find me too sceptic, because, maybe in some hearts it still finds place.
The moment you type “love” in Google search, first thing that pops up is the love calculator, which many claim, calculates the chance & compatibility of a successful relationship. All you need to do is write your name and of your partner’s. With just a click of the mouse, the so-called calculator will provide you with an extensive result! Could this get any more disgusting? This is the world and times we are in. Ironically, in a world, where the meaning of “love” is lost, everything and every second person are obsessed about the subject. Not denying the fact that it is much needed, but the way it shifts and travels from one to another, it has become more of a synonym for obsessive compulsive dependency. The need for someone to be always there and well if somebody is there always, one starts breathing for “personal space”.
Pardon me for pulling this string a little more. The wiki definition elaborates how this word can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection. The Merriam Webster dictionary says “It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.” And if you think I am pulling this way too much there is a whole classification to this one little word.
Since we are done with a few of the many definitions, let me put down the categories. They go on as Impersonal love, Interpersonal love, Biological basis, Psychological basis, Evolutionary basis, Comparison of scientific models, Cultural views- Greek and roman, Chinese and sinic, Persian and Japanese, Turkish, etc and then moves on to Religious views. It is interesting to know they all have their own definitions, Abrahamic religions, Eastern religions, Buddhism and Hinduism. We also have Political views, Free love and Philosophical views. That is quite a menu!
The definition of ‘love” has evolved in the decades that have passed. For most, it has been reduced to something in name of which everything is termed fair. In the name of love, a lot goes around. Be it being silly or psychotic, be it possessive or destructive.
There is a funny observation. The expectation of “love” from another is directly proportional to the “dislike” towards self. Mind you, I am referring to this decade’s “love”, where time and appreciation for self is at either of the extremes. It’s a speculation, we are so engrossed running after something we do not completely understand that a point comes where we lose track. We stop appreciating the self, the person we are, in search & longing for that fleeting Love!
“A shoulder to cry on”, “someone who understands one’s silence”, “someone with whom one can be what in actual they are” and I can go on and on with these phrases! Were these not the same phrases one uses for friends? It is worth a thought why “love” suddenly rose and started shining. Every second person is in “love”, if it lasts or is lost is an altogether different story.